Charisma - What It Is, And How To Fertilize Your Own Unique Brand
Project "Real" Confidence!
When people think of charisma it often conjures up images of “dating” but charisma is used in all areas of life from friendships, to story telling, to leadership and business meetings. Since most people who want to work on their charisma are looking for a way to attract the opposite sex I’ll use that aspect here, but realize once you get the concept down you can apply it/retrofit the concept, to any other area with equal success.
The main problem I’m seeing with charisma is that most people are leading a double life. It’s not that charisma isn’t in every single person, in fact not only is it, but each unique individual has a special flavor of charisma, a recipe that nobody can copy or replicate quite the same as they can, and you should embrace it.
The Double life most people are living is not only making them weak, but it is hiding the charismatic person that Men and Women are LQQking for!
Let’s Explore The Internal Dialogue for a moment
One of the most powerful things science has discovered is our self talk can limit or empower us or worse, it can power us to limit ourselves! Most of the time people don't pay attention to their internal dialogue and several outside factors penetrate past their defenses, or even worse they are practically hosted in and the things we want in are "blocked". This happens because improper and counterproductive filters are created! Lack of awareness is detrimental to our ability to become the person we really are. Influences include the media, friends, our own lack of awareness, and many others!
By taking charge of this self talk and programming it On Purpose with powerful tested affirmations, we link our emotional states and what we want together. Our resolve strengthens. One of the things that people don't realize is how incredibly powerful we truly are! The things we often want for ourselves already exist; confidence, charisma, and other powerful dispositions exist but we subconsciously block them from development. This doesn't mean we can't still develop them, just that we need to stimulate the mental muscles!
The media is poisoning us…
We believe the hype the media puts out there. We watch TV shows and become convinced that we must reach these imaginary heights and so we raise the bar so high that we lose faith in our own ability to be good enough just being our self! What we neglect to realize is that we are already amazing, and have an incredible capacity to be charismatic, but living up to unattainable standards retards our progress and in the end creates exactly what we don't want. I'll tell you a secret. Women are tired of all the "fakes" out there (men too!). Everywhere they go they run into someone who is trying to be someone else.. None’s trying to be themselves.
Since I’m a guy I’ll take this from the Male perspective but again it all applies to both sexes
Women can sense it. The guy who figures this out is the guy who has all the ladies competing for his attention, because he fills a need in a market that's saturated with people acting ridiculous, trying to manipulate them instead of just getting to know them. Their own fear of inadequacy makes them self defeat before they even get a chance to be rejected. Ironically it is their next move to protect themselves that gets them rejected. Women don't like to be manipulated any more than you do.. Being genuine is not only comfortable it’s adorable! It’s also incredibly comfortable because it is the soil that confidence must thrive in!
We get so caught up trying to be something we’re not that we put twice the energy we need into pretending, and there is very little energy left for social interaction where by we can enjoy ourselves, relax, and be ourselves. We find ourselves ill prepared to be resilient so say the least and the inevitable result; we act, look, and feel nervous, which is a big turn off as well (in any situation; dating, business, and even mingling!
If you only knew that the secret to being amazingly charismatic and confident is to simply relax and stop pretending to be someone else you’d do it- or would you? The only thing standing in your way is fear. Fear is being generated by your internal dialogue. No two people on this planet are alike, its impossible.. Apples and oranges. Being yourself is not only the most natural state of being, it’s the one that will attract women, friends, and business contacts more than anything else! It’s hard to embrace that your uniqueness is what is the pheromones of charismatic attraction, but this is really it! The good news is that we all possess this powerful built in charisma, but many didn’t get the users manual. In their plight to understand their own charisma they often derail and end up trying to hijack someone else’s manual. The problem is that manual is non transferable!
Embrace your Uniqueness, true charisma is non-duplicable!
Realize that we each have something unique to offer. Tell me.. Do you enjoy a new episode of your favorite program (providing it’s as good as your favorite rerun of the same show) or an old episode? Of course you enjoy the new one, because it’s fresh, exciting, stimulating, you don't know what to expect. It challenges the mind, stimulates the imagination, and keeps you thinking. We as human beings thrive when these things happen and so we become bored with repetition, lack of variety. Change, newness, stimulation are all very sexy, very intriguing.
One of the most amazing gifts we’re born with is our uniqueness from everyone else on the planet.. Why then would you try to cloak it with a "rerun" when you possess an amazing and intriguing gift that women absolutely adore? Why copy someone else’s source code that won’t work in your life any more than windows applications will work on a Mac?
A copy is never as brilliant or sharp as the original
Do you find it "Impressive" when you see a brilliant commercial, that makes you feel good, makes you laugh, makes you think in new directions, and impresses upon you intrigue and fascination? Of course you do. But do you find it equally "Impressive" to see another commercial from a completely different company "copy" that idea and without so much as a new format, instead of innovating their own? How about seeing the same idea "copied" again by yet another company? Of course not, you think to yourself that they simply stole that "Cool" companies "Great" Idea... The only chance the copycat commercial has is that someone saw theirs first!
Realize that we all possess, in just being who we uniquely are, the ability to, without even trying, to be that fresh exciting commercial, that innovative and interesting, thought provoking commercial, to each and every person we come in contact with!
People actually go out of their way to bury their charm!
What if I told you that most people not only don't exploit this birth right but actually go out of their way to counter it! It's like were at war with a peaceful un-provoking country that is our true self.. Smacking candy out of little kid’s hands is no better than what people do to themselves every day. Well we hope to put an end to your suffering, your ignorance of self, and we want to bring out and introduce you to the most important person in your life. YOU. Fear is simply unawareness, and most people fear being themselves because they simply don't realize who they are! The irony is when you do realize who you are and how amazing it feels (to you and to those who react to you) you won’t give it up for anything in the world, and yes, other will want to copy it but CAN’T!
We know that our own internal dialogue, the way we "chat" with ourselves is what creates our reality and so if that's the root of the problem then that's what we need to change... The filters we set up create and cultivate "who we are". If the solution was a farmer, then your Internal dialogue is the crops then we need to water them properly, no pesticides, no bugs, nothing to rot the fruit of your success...
This solution, fixing your internal dialogue, thinking in the right direction Habitually, will cultivate your filters that make you unstoppable, and give you so much confidence towards women (taking the fear factor out is a major accomplishment!) that YOU WILL RADIATE CHARISMA from the inside out. Real Authentic Charisma, not scripts to say, not ways to be, but genuinely YOU. In this light theirs nothing to rehearse, no comebacks to memorize, no resilience training, and no courses to buy, just relax and get to know yourself, and the conversations will ebb and flow with amazing ease!
It’s exhausting to try to be something your not
A funny thing happens when we are confident and assured, motivated and ambitious, and ready to go for what we want... We put off a powerful energy, a physical "Vibration" that others (whom would benefit us and us them) actually "Resonate" with; actually physically and emotionally "Feel"!
If your vibrating fake, non-Authentic waves of generic charisma they will feel compelled to repel you because it not only irritates people to feel it, it's almost an invasive use of their space! It's no better to be fake than to smell like a dumpster.. Both have the same end result. Repulsion. Did I mention the amount of energy it takes to be fake? Relax! This isn't rocket science!
Once you know who you are, you never have to explain it to anyone- you radiate it very lucidly
Instead of trying to find a way to force the women to see who we are inside, we should first discover who we are, become comfortable with whom we are, and then an amazing thing will happen! We will naturally become our true self, comfortable being our own charismatic self. This will radiate confidence and like an earth magnet. Women will see it, feel it, and be drawn to you like a tractor beam out of curiosity and intrigue.
Theirs nothing sexier than someone who is confident, authentic, and self assured and nothing feels more amazing than living YOUR life. The energy you waste in being fake is used more efficiently being real, and since there is no friction in being real, this energy becomes perpetual and powerful!
When your being your true self your not desperate for others to fulfill some void in your life, your comfortable, relaxed and love can freely visit you, you don't fear rejection, because your not trying to meet someone, your just being you, enjoying your most faithful companion.. YOU. When you love yourself you radiate amazing energy, and instead of looking for the right people the right people gravitate towards you like someone who is starving and smells the wondrous aromas emanating from a great restaurant! Ever pass by a bakery and smell the bread? You become the bakery, but only the right people for you will follow the trail back to you. It’s intuitive, and being yourself is as natural as it gets.
You can find your charisma in many ways. You can read books that interest you on charisma and the things you’re not doing will become mentally highlighted. You can journey through what makes you happy and eventually you will figure out what you’re doing wrong. You can ask other people what your best traits are, and figure out what your doing that repulses people (these will be the fake traits or roadblocks). The journey takes time and many discover eventually their core of self and become happy, charismatic, and powerful people.
The Accelerated Method For Healing:
TranQuil-Wiser
I know it’s easy to read all this and even understand that it is actually very simple to comprehend, but in actual practice, the work part can be discouraging because there are no instant results to motivate you. But there is a way to speed up the process and it comes with a built in instant reward process that will keep you going. I call this process TranQuil-Wiser. First you feel tranquil, relaxed, liberated from your day and active thought stream.
You reach a trance state where tranquility is the carrier signal to clarity of thought. Once there the “wiser” process kicks in and gives you the tools to chip away those filters to expose the amazing insights that will take this to the next level. The reward will be awareness that will shock you, and put an aha moment in place of the stress and confusion you normally feel.
I’ve developed a way to help you reach this point, to reprogram your internal dialogue in ways that unlock awareness, and allow you to see the world through your own eyes. This is a tool that can help accelerate your progress by helping you jump into the engine room of your self talk, your subconscious mind, to give you insight into your own source code so YOU can change it.
What I’ve developed is a musical track that both distracts your conscious mind and entertains it, causes your brain to release dopamine, endorphins, and other natural chemicals that you experience when your fully confident and happy using subliminal affirmations, subliminal music (the actual music is designed to make you feel emotions to make it easier to reach your subconscious information!), and more. This “feeling” as well as the experience itself will act as a proxy reward system until you start to open up and see the amazing core of who you are. From there you will start to feel a new reward system that will keep you going long after you stop listening to the track. The bonus is that if you continue to listen you will double your rewards… Many use this as a meditation CD as well as healing to keep them on track (I use mine actually still to this day and I feel 100% me).
There is also a technology built in that I call Dynatmosphere™ because it allows your mind to hear a different track each time you listen, all the while bringing you into alignment with a hypnotic state of mind that allows you to integrate subliminal affirmations that, over time, will make you fully aware of yourself. Once you reach your core self you will want to continue to monitor your thoughts, because it’s not that hard to slip back into the old state. Luckily this track will last a life time!
The affirmations on the track both audible and subliminal in some tracks, don’t tell you who you are, how to think, or give you a direct path out. They work like a powerful quote you hear that makes you think about things in a new light. An example by Eleanor Roosevelt that says “Nobody can make you feel anything without your consent” (this isn’t an affirmation but this is the type of affirmation content I use) comes close to explaining how it works. It can also be seen as a teacher asking you a question and the answer brings you your enlightenment, but also nudges you to think in a new direction.
These don’t tell you how to think, the affirmations and music simply help steer your mind internally, showing you the road back to your internal source code. They suggest things to your internal dialogue/subconscious mind, and give you another way to see your life.
Once you experience these insights it will be successful results that will help YOU change your dialogue permanently, acting as a defense shield against low self esteem. The power here is that you are given a choice, but the music helps you to see the other side that you may not be able to get in front of naturally because of the bad filters (things like thinking automatically “what if she doesn’t like me?” that make you nervous before you even try and kill your confidence which gives you little chance of even approaching her! The insights will happen both in your dreams, in waking life, and in your thoughts. Eventually they will become a Constance and you will feel liberated from your shell, your mask, your fear.
Our Superior Charisma track is much more than just music and subliminals, it is a powerful technological breakthrough that will help you, not do it for you, but help you to unearth your core self and bring your core reality to the surface, dissolving everything you believe that is inconsistent with your core truth.
Over time you will start to have small victories, small awareness shifts where you will discover hallmarks of your trance. AHA! Moments will be something you look forward to. You will start to discover things that will give you a new rung on your ladder out of the mask and up to the surface of your real life.
As you listen and relax, your imagination, your dreams will take you through the awareness that has always been there but was blocked using metaphors based on your own language- how you see the world. Once you do this, you will do much like a dream interpretation, and decode the messages in the dreams you had during your journey through our music and your own mind! It’s like dream therapy but more interactive and purposeful. The first listen will be intriguing, and you may just ride… The music is powerfully uplifting and liberating, a trance is inevitable. But as you listen more and more each session you start to peel back the layers of your mind, revealing the filters in an environment where they cannot hide behind the conscious mind and fear, where you can see symbolically, like you do in dreams, what is blocking you from being yourself.
Our music and affirmations will take you into that seemingly hidden side of your self, and every day you will start to see things in a new way, a more clear way, the way it really is not the way you’ve been lead to believe it is. It is not an instantaneous process but in time you will unlock your self esteem, and truly find yourself.
You must get out in the world and interact as well as listening to this CD however, as it will be you and your interaction with life that will alleviate your spell. I’m sure you’ve heard that meditation is not only a necessary part of happiness, but it is incredibly rewarding and healthy. This CD will fulfill your “meditation credits” (to borrow a college term), and give you a luxurious way to relax and give yourself a much deserved break.
Click here to learn more about our "Superior Charisma" CD and hear a clip of the ambiance used.
(Coming soon)
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